25 Green Flags

The other day someone sent me a Twitter thread about green flags in relationships, so I headed to Instagram to ask folks their thoughts on the matter. 

I feel like we’ve been conditioned to be on high alert for the negative or red flags, but what about highlighting the ways we know someone is a positive in our life.  Here are some of the responses: 

1. "Transparency in intentions."
   — Laura

2. "Good at apologies."
   — Katie

3. "🍆 paired with a good sense of humour."
   — Julia

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4. "Authenticity."
   — Caitlin

5. "Anyone that's not a man."
   — Temi

6. "Someone who can make me laugh, but also conversations with depth."
   — Hayley

7. "An open mind and the desire to grow as a person."
   — Juice

8. "Being able to say no to things without feeling guilty (All things, not just sex."
   — Daria

9. "Intentional listening."
   — Carter

10. "When they expect/are happy to do half of the cooking and household labour. When they speak positively about women, they have no sexual interest in and when they're not afraid to share their feelings openly and ask for help when they need it. Remembering insignificant things, you've mentioned once about yourself and when your pet/grandma/young siblings or cousins love them."
    — Juliet

11. "Listening. ACTUALLY listening, not just hearing."
    — Kwene

12. "Diverse interests, knows what they want, good self of human and they're self-aware."
    — Natalie

13. "They got that WAP."
    — Marcus

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14. "Good communication!!!!"
    — Sophie

15. "They have good music taste, they're clean and family-oriented."
    — Jerelle

16. "Self-awareness, patience, and kindness towards others."
    — Sonia

17. "Someone who doesn't crack under pressure."
    — Solly

18. "Someone who doesn't get embarrassed when I dance like a fool in the grocery store and isn't intimidated by my discussion of sex on the internet."
    — Jeneka

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19. "Good tipper, shows up on time, doesn't get drunk and when they do, they don't drive."
    — Laura

20. "Open minded! Funny and genuine."
    — Valerie

21. "Let have good rhythm."
    — Laura

22. "Someone who's driven and has aspirations."
    — Lindsey

23. "When they have a good relationship with their mama."
    — Sam

24. "Good eye contact."
    — Amy

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25. "Their close friends have a good moral compass; they have a good relationship with their parents, and they communicate well."
    — Jillian

Please don’t ignore the red flags in any of your relationships, whether they’re romantic, platonic or familial. Just remember to relish in the good.